Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Naptime = me time?

Naptime... One of my favourite times of day. Mr Oliver dropped to 1 sleep a day at only 9 months old and although it seemed early, it was a blessing in disguise. He went from being a shocking cat napper to sleeping a good 3-4 hours every afternoon.

I usually spend this time madly cleaning the house (including my least favourite task - getting under the couches with a broom handle in an attempt to sift out the mornings duplo stash that has made its way under there), preparing dinner, hanging out washing, ironing, responding to emails & messages, sorting through photos.....

Naptime = me time? I wish.

In the past couple of months though I have been feeling challenged to give myself a bit more 'me' time. Re-assess my priorities. It's not like I'm throwing tea parties every other day - no-one is going to care if the pile of duplo is creeping out from under the couch (well, until someone stands on it. OUCH!). It's something I have to work at though - I am a do-er, I like to be busy, I'm actually not very good at being bored (although I wish I was) and my mind is always full of things that need doing. As is my to do list...

But anyway - as much as I do love to relax, I always feel like I have something that I should be doing during naptime. I consciously decided though that I would reduce my to do list for each naptime to the bare essentials - namely, making sure there will be food on the table that evening and that the house isn't tooooooooooo much of a disaster zone. I stopped going overboard in the afternoon tidying though cos lets face it - in the short 1-2hours that Mr Oliver is awake before Dadda gets home, the house once again looks like a bomb has hit it.

So once my big priorities are complete, I have been making myself switch off from all the mundane tasks that I think I should be doing and instead do something I enjoy. At first it was reading - I am a shocking speed reader (it's not a good thing, but I'm not about to get into the technical details) so I can actually knock over most of a novel during naptime. Sometimes it's blogging - I blog because I LOVE to write. It's a form of stress relief for me. So blogging definitely = me time. And a lot of the time it's pinning... I am a self confessed pinterest addict :-)

More recently me time has been getting in touch with my creative side. I know I've posted snippets of my crafty love on here over the years, but I finally feel like I have found my niche in the craft world... I just love, love LOVE making softies. My mind is just bursting with so many new ideas which I can't wait to try out and I feel like I'm killing two birds with one stone here - I love to feel busy so this gives me something that I can actively do BUT it's a 'busy' task that I actually find to be kinda relaxing!

Since actively making the decision to turn naptime into me time, I am feeling so much more refreshed. More energized. More passionate about things. In my first year of motherhood, I discovered that it's all too easy to get caught up in the 'shoulds'. I think my list of things I should do is never ending and if I don't make the decision to have some time out every day, it'll never happen because being a Mum is one busy job. I really want to encourage other Mums out there to take some time out, even if it's only able to be 5 minutes with a coffee and a newspaper, it's important to switch off and let your mind rejuvenate routinely.

So... Naptime = me time? I'm working on it!


23 comments:

  1. First things first: that picture of Mr. O is so adorable!!!
    Second: i've been wondering this before, but keep forgetting to ask...what are softies? I've seen photos of them,but what are they for? Excuse my ignorance! :P
    Three: I think naptime should definitely have some me time involved! Especially now with only one child, it's actually a possibility because we don't have other kids to run after! I love to blog and edit photos, and (gasp) even sometimes watch a show or two. Rejuvenating!
    xo

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Softies is another word for soft toys (I think it's more used in Aus then over here, I've had a few people wondering the same thing!) - the ones I make are small versions though so I figured softies sounds cuter :) Watching a show sounds heavenly!!!! When I get back into my knitting, I'm planning on some of that myself - knitting, cup of tea and a fav tv show or two :)

      Delete
  2. This comment has been removed by the author.

    ReplyDelete
  3. Sorry- comment error before. I was in search of a dolly and looked under the couch- I was SHOCKED at the amount of toys I found under there! Guess I will be using your broom trick as I could not reach many of them! Thanks for stopping by my blog and for your comments! Your little one is SO CUTE!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. The broom sure does work a treat! It's amazing just how much can get stashed under there in a short period of time!

      Delete
  4. I am also blessed with a 3-4 hour naptime. (and they BOTH nap at the same time!). Just recently I had to make a naptime schedule type thing, because I too was wasting my only free moments trying to get the mundane tasks done. Nap-time=Me-time is a great concept! (If only they put that in those parenting books ;) Great post!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thanks! That is awesome that your kids naps line up (from what I hear from Mums who have 2+, coordinating naps is the biggest hurdle), definitely make the most of that :)

      Delete
  5. Ooooh... my 9-month-old has also only taken one long nap the past several days. Is he dropping the morning one?! I love how long he's taking them (at least I can cat nap, too)... but I'm not sure I'm ready for that!

    I love jeans on a diapered bum! Babies fill them out so well, don't they?

    Christine

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. It is a big change when they go to one sleep hey - the mornings become veryyyyy long! It's worked well for us because it means he actually gets a decent sleep now and I get a break too :)

      Delete
  6. Here, naptime is always me-time! I do cleaning and laundry when Joris is awake (he loves the vacuum cleaner). When he sleeps, I get behind my laptop, working, writing or reading. And hoping he sleeps for two hours straight :)

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Ollie is the same! He loves the vacuum cleaner and tries to sit on it :)

      Delete
  7. Love that picture! It's so hard sometimes to let yourself have me time. I don't have really anytime with a newborn but when I just had Aubrey and my inlaws would watch her they would always tell me to go get a pedicure or something but I never did it because I always felt like there was too much to do around the house.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. It is hard - a Mums to do list is never ending. I find I have to really make myself do it and switch off, because there is always something else that needs to be done around here. I can only imagine how the situation changes when there are 2 to look after though, eeek!

      Delete
  8. Yep I have this same problem. I can't just sit and relax when my house looks like Hurricane Destructo came through it. I do try to take a nap at least once on the weekends while Destructo naps. Get caught up on all the lost sleep from the work week. I guess that is my me time.

    www.adventureswithcaptaindestructo.com

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. A weekend nap is a great idea! I need to start doing that too I think.

      Delete
  9. I struggle with this as well. There is always ALWAYS stuff that needs to get done during nap time (you're braver than I... I don't even attempted looking under the sofas), but I try and force myself to at least devote a half hour or so to doing something for me (tv, computer, sewing, etc).

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. It's funny how as Mums we really have to work at it, hey! Too much to do, too little time... But we definitely need our me time :)

      Delete
  10. I have my 21 month old and my 3 year old and I have yet to figure it out :) thanks for linking up with favorite thing friday :)

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I can only imagine what it's like with 2!!!! I imagine things would get a lot more complicated :) Have a great Thanksgiving!

      Delete
  11. Love that photo, Luana. What a blessing that your little boy has begun to nap for long stretches at a time. Until around that same age, our baby girl was a catnapper at best. She was so very difficult to get to sleep during the day. I have a really hard time relaxing during naptime too, because I always feel like my to-do list is looming over my head. For the most part, I can generally manage to sweep the floor and have a cup of coffee brewing at the same time. Thank you for sharing with us this week at {MMM}! Have a splendid weekend.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. The catnapping stage is so difficult, I remember it all too well. Thanks for popping by, hope you had a great Thanksgiving!

      Delete
  12. thanks for sharing this post with me over at hopefulfuture :)

    Nap time is definitely my "me" time. but now that I have 2 I have the challenge of getting them both down at the same time in order to have it! :) I'm a better mom when I have some time to myself, so I make it happen ;)

    --paula

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. It's definitely worth the effort :) From what I hear, coordinating naptimes with 2 can be challenging!

      Delete

Thanks for reading, your comments make my day :-)

LinkWithin

Related Posts with Thumbnails