Wednesday, January 9, 2013

13 for 13 - intentional

I'm not much for new years resolutions. In fact, the last time I officially made one was when I was 15 and a friend and I both vowed on NYE to get ourselves boyfriends that year (I'm pleased to say, that resolution was soon fulfilled and years on... I married him!!!!). I felt like 2012 was a bit of a blur - with trying to find our feet in a new country AND trying to figure out our  new life as a family of 3, well, other then getting my Etsy shop up and running, I personally felt like I didn't do a whole lot. Just survived. Settled.

For the past week, the word intentional has been running through my head. I don't know why, it just keeps coming up in random thoughts & conversations so I feel like this year, I need to be more intentional with things in my life instead of just sitting back and waiting for good things to occur. Although I don't do resolutions, I wanted to put to paper (not literally, but you know what I mean) 13 things I want to be more intentional about this year...

1. Remind myself daily that motherhood does not equal martyrdom. In other words: stop feeling guilty when I take time out for me.

2. Don't check my phone unnecessarily while Oliver is awake. I've had a personal rule for awhile now where I won't sit down at the computer while he's awake. However - my phone is an issue. It's there. Waiting. It's essentially a computer. I've had all the instant notifications turned off since I got the thing (because really, who wants to be woken up by the buzzing of your phone at 2am to be told that so-and-so liked your FB status) but I still need to stop checking it so much. The two things I'm allowing myself are Skype and Instagram (when I have a picture of the cutie to upload, of course).

3. Don't have 'write letter to {name}' on my to do list for six months but NEVER WRITE THE LETTER! I have a good friend from years back who I write to. Despite the ease of technology nowadays, we decided to keep our communications from afar to letter writing. Why? Because it's just so nice! Whenever I see a letter addressed in her handwriting, I get super excited. I love sitting down and reading something that she has put time into, that has literally traveled across oceans to get to me. But because I've become so used to just being able to whip up a two second email to friends nowadays, I feel like I've let this special tradition slip because in my mind, it takes more effort (although, it doesn't really - I'm at the post all the time) and that's something I'm sad about. This year, I'm cutting back on email time and increasing letter writing time.

4. Be patient with my husband. Almost a year in, we are still trying to figure out this whole work/life balance thing. There's a lot of pressure in this particular area to work work work, around the clock so that you 'make it'. He's trying hard and (except for those horrific eval times) things are improving. Dramatically. I am not a patient person however - I like results, and I like them NOW! I need to be more gracious and recognise the effort he is making instead of just constantly thinking of how far there is to go.

5. Don't just say 'I want to be a better friend', but actually do it. Ask close friends what I can do better; how I can help brighten their day. Each & every friend is different after all.

6. TRAVEL MORE! This is easier said then done, given Mitch's lack of vacation allowance. Back in the good old days of two months holidays per year and a significantly lower cost of living, we could just go wherever, whenever without a second thought. Nowadays we have to be a little more intentional. We have to plan in advance and prioritise where we want to go. Sometimes I find this a little overwhelming - then I can't make any decisions and we don't go anywhere (it's really amazing we went away after Christmas. We were so darn indecisive about what to do for the holidays and booked the trip on a whim!). This year, I want a plan so that we actually get out and explore this beautiful part of the globe we live in.

7. Stop thinking about what my body was like pre-baby. It will never be the same again. Be thankful for that - it means that I have been given the precious gift of motherhood.

8. Take a little more pride in my appearance - I'm no slob, but I want to step out of my comfort zone a little more when it comes to fashion.

9. Pray more. Every time I think to myself gee I should pray more, pray. Right there and then.

10. Don't feel bad when I choose to sleep in instead of going to the gym at 6am... Yes, I want to get more fit so that I don't heave and huff as I run after my energetic toddler. But it's ok to sleep in too. Mama needs her rest.

11. Read books instead of watching TV. Cut back an episode for a chapter or two. Simple.

12. Challenge myself in the crafting department. Sew out of my comfort zone. Create something in a different medium. Get inventive.

13. This is my strongest desire for 2013. I want to stop wishing myself onto the next milestone in Oliver's life and enjoy the moment. Like I explained back here, I feel like for the first year of his life I was too focused on what was going to happen next rather then cherishing what was going on now. I've come to realise that babies aren't babies for long - my boy really is changing daily. This year, I'm going to slow down and smell the roses.

Here's to a more intentional 2013 *raises cup of tea* :-)


  1. I found myself shaking my head yes at so many of these! Especially # 13!

  2. A lot of your areas to be intentional are similar to things I would like to focus on this year.
    I like that word, intentional. I think it fits perfectly alongside your list of goals. I want to wish you good luck, but luck tends to contradict intention, so instead I wish you a purposeful 2013!

  3. #4 was a huge struggle for us after Aaron. I still struggle some days. It's hard to remember that Justin's job is just as difficult and he gets bombarded with kids as soon as he's through the door

  4. hey, thanks for the encouragement and for stopping by! They do grow up fast, and even when you're trying it is still hard to truly cherish the moment!

  5. I'm with you on #2. I practically have my phone glued to my hand some days. all honesty...most days. I'm trying to work on that.

    I LOVE your letter writing idea. It's always so exciting to receive cards in the mail. And I would LOVE to know where you lived when they gave you 2 months of vacation time a year! I definitely need to move there! Haha


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